Marry the person you love or Love the person you marry?





A student asks a teacher,
"Why often people marry 
a different person than they 
fell in love with"? 
The teacher said,"in order to 
answer your question, go to the wheat
field and choose the best 
wheat and come back.

But the rule is that you 
can go through them 
only once and cannot 
turn  back to pick.

The student went to  the field, 
went through the first row, 
he saw one big wheat which
he instantly liked, but he 
wonders that maybe there 
is a  bigger one further.

Then he saw  another bigger 
one, but again he thought
that maybe there is an 
even bigger one  waiting 
for him.

Later, when he finished more 
than half of the wheat field,
he started to realize that 
the wheat is not as big as 
the one he let go off, 
he started to realize that he 
had missed the best one 
in the search of a bigger.

So, he ended up going back to the
 teacher with an empty hand 
because he just wasn't able to forgive 
himself for letting go of 
the best wheat and 
described what happened.

The teacher told him,"You kept 
looking for a better go of the best one 
and later when you realize 
that you have missed that, 
you can't go back.

This is the mistake made by 
people who fell in love and lost 
the best person they could have in their life".

So, the student said, "Does that mean, 
one should never fall in love?"

 The Teacher replied, "No Dear, Anyone can fall 
in love if they find a suitable person. 
But, one you truly fall in love,
 you must never let go of that person 
due o your anger, ego or comparison 
with others."

"How do they end up marrying someone 
their than they loved?" 
the student asked.

The teacher said, " in order to answer 
your question, go to the corn field 
and choose the biggest corn 
and come back. But the rule is same as 
before, you can go through them 
only once and cannot 
turn back to pick."

The student went to the corn field, 
this time he was careful to not to 
repeat the previous mistake.

When he reached to middle of the field, 
he picked one medium corn that he felt 
satisfied with and went back to the teacher. 
He described how he made the choice.

The teacher told him, "This time you didn't came 
empty handed. You looked for one that is just 
looked for one that is just nice, and you had 
put your faith that is the best on you can get. 
This is how one makes a choice 
for a marriage." The student stood confused. 
The teacher asked, "What is bothering you now?"

The student replied, "I am wondering which
 would have been better, 
marrying a person you love or 
loving the person you marry".

The teacher replied, "It's a very easy answer,
 only if you are willing to admit it to 
yourself".

Life is like a basket of fruits. Either you have 
to make a choice of eating the fruit you 
love or be content 
with something that is healthy.

Choose wisely else you may have to spend your life wondering, what if..
As long as you stay true to yourself and honest, you can't go wrong with any of these two choices.

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